Posted on May 10, 2012 @[email protected]

Surviving Graduation

For many families and young adults the month of May means it’s graduation season again.  Around this time you’re likely to hear all sorts of well wishes and advice.  So what advice is really worth applying?  The advice that helps to ensure that you are happy in your adult life.

The number one factor in your happiness is your connections with other people.  Meaningful connections are key to your well-being.  Cherish the time you spent with your friends in college and do everything you can to maintain old friendships and forge new ones.  If in ten years or even thirty years you’re still friends without a lot of the people you are friends with now you are likely to have had a rather fulfilling personal life.

It is also important that you are aware that some hard days lie ahead of you.  Every young adult faces periods of self-doubt and failure, if you don’t it probably means you aren’t challenging yourself enough.  So if you find yourself unemployment or feeling out of synch don’t allow yourself to get too discouraged, it is important that you learn from your mistakes and learn to pull yourself back up if you fall.

Another great piece of advice may sound fairly common sense.  Do your best not to make the world a worse place to live in.  Of course nobody really aims to do harm with their career yet a lot of people end up doing so.  If you are graduating from a university you are likely talented and smart, don’t use these talents in the wrong ways.  Remember that you are smart and creative and at this point in your life motivated, this is why people tell you, you can change the world.  Just keep in mind that it is possible for you to change the world in negative ways.  Moreover companies are likely to offer a lot of money to help them do so.  Just remember you won’t be happy if you feel like your hard work and creativity is doing more harm than good, it may be worth a lesser pay check to feel like you are not contributing to the problems plaguing this earth.

Don’t underestimate the impact your significant other will have on your life.  If you have somebody intelligent and financially stable you are going to have an easier time than if you marry somebody who makes poor decisions or seems to be finding themselves in a lot of debt.  That being said you should not marry somebody you are in any way incompatible with, marital strife can be both financially and emotionally costly and is likely to prevent real happiness.

Do your best not to get caught up in and contribute to the competitive nature of our society.  From birth we are forced to compete to out-do others.  Everything from little-league baseball to college admissions has become more competitive.  Remember that winning isn’t all that important in life, especially when you stand back and look at the big picture.  What is important is doing your best and fulfilling your goals.  Adopt this motto for yourself and instill this attitude in your future children.  Passion will take you a lot further than competitiveness.

Don’t be too risk averse when making big decisions.  You want find big rewards without a little bit of risk.  Your parents and friends may advise against risks, this doesn’t mean you can’t take them.

If you work hard, follow your heart and value your friendships you’re likely to go much further than those who are strictly trying to win.

Robert Boroff Executive Profile Managing Director Reaction Search International

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